BABYBROWNSUGAR MOM: EBON'NAE
Where are you based and what are your favorite things to do in the area with your family?
I am based in Arlington, Texas. My favorite place to take my kids has evolved over the years as they’ve grown (and now that I have a range of age groups). I love to take them places that will enrich them as children and humans, like attending church service and fun outings. We also like to take staycations near the Cowboys stadium and six flags, go swim, and try out new restaurants. My boys are also gamers so Esports events too!
How many little ones do you have and how old are they? What do you like most about this stage in their lives?
I have four boys. Christian (15), Caleb (11), Colin (9), and Chad-James (5). Four years ago, I didn’t know if I would make it through the little kid stage, but now they are the perfect ages because they are more independent.
On a good night, we unplug from technology an hour or more in advance, shower/bath, then do sleepy tea or essential oil, and rain sounds. Bedtime is 9-10pm. On a bad night, everyone falls asleep whenever lol!
Tell us about your current role, project(s), or business(es) and what is your inspiration?
I am a mom boss in all senses of the word. I am a very hands-on mama and business owner of 2 Doula Practices. One is Royal La Meré Birth and Wellness, a faith-based upscale doula boutique where I help Kingdom-minded women have Supernatural birth experiences & Christian doulas grow in business. My second doula practice is Dallas Royal Doulas, we are a group of doulas of color helping to give black and brown women the birth and postpartum support they need. Royal La Meré came about 11 years ago and is a manifestation of my own supernatural birth experience. Dallas Royal Doulas was a vision I had for the past 3-4 years. The maternal mortality rates are high--Black women are dying 3-4 times more than white women from birth related issues. I wanted to help more black and brown women receive the support they needed.
As a boss mom, what do you want to instill in your little ones?
Having all boys, I want them to see how women can be high achievers and move with purpose while being mothers. I want them to pick wives with healthy Godly perspectives. I would like them to have true partnerships with their spouses and see their wives as whole people and honor the entirety of their purpose on this earth, not just her role as wife.
What is an inspirational quote or mantra that you live by?
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
When I became a mother at the age of 20, I felt a love I didn’t know existed. It ignited my ambition to be better. Each child has birthed a different version of myself.
What has surprised you the most about your motherhood journey?
I am surprised by the amount of childhood trauma and limiting mindsets that existed. My kids have literally healed me. They are the most honest mirrors and have helped me to see myself. The growth has been so vast and deep and I am still growing daily.
Any advice you would give to new moms?
Enjoy the moments. Don’t suffer alone, a million other mamas have also experienced similar things. What you believe is unique to you. Speak up and ask for the help you need. If you don't get it the first time, keep trying. You may have to outsource help from doulas and other birth/postpartum specialists.
How do you allow others to support you as a mother and creator?
I had to learn how to check in with myself first so I knew what I needed and could allow people to help me in those areas. I also have learned how to humble myself and accept safe help.