BABYBROWNSUGAR MOM: KEISHA MABRY HAYMORE

BABYBROWNSUGAR MOM: KEISHA MABRY HAYMORE
Keisha Mabry Haymore is a speaker, author, director and coach. Her passion for diversifying the public speaking industry naturally led her to help entrepreneurs build their businesses and amplify their brand. She connects with Black and Latinx creators and encourages economic sustainability within those communities. As the mom of a young daughter she wants to show that with determination and community, you can accomplish big dreams!
Where are you based and what are your favorite things to do in the area with your family? 
I am based in St. Louis and we love new family experiences. Every Saturday we have Family Fun Day and we have done everything from strawberry picking to swimming to live music, farmer’s markets, museums, parks and petting zoo visits.

How many little ones do you have and how old are they? What do you like most about this stage in their lives? 
I have one little one and she is 11-months. Her name is Zari which means golden and this first year with her has definitely been a golden year. I love the way her face lights up when she learns something new and the joy in her face when she plays with her shoes. I love her laughter, her smiles and giggles, her whines and cries for attention and the way she walks and wiggles. I love her determination when trying to figure out how her blocks stack and her fascination with how her magnets snap. I love every part of this stage, even the long nights and long days.

What does your kids' bedtime routine (or non-routine) look like in your household? Do you have any rituals that you swear by? 
Bedtime? Insert laugh here. Bedtime with Zari has been a struggle since day one and after 11-months of this, I am convinced that Zari is a night owl. Convinced!!! And I can’t get mad because I am the same, and yes—we have tried everything. We have tried swaddling, lavender, warm baths, warm blankets, baby massages, motion bassinets, driving, walking, wrapping, music and even tried sleep training. Everything—and nothing worked. Zari goes to sleep when she wants to go to sleep which is usually between 9pm and 12am. In the beginning this bothered me because everyone and everything told me that I needed a routine but maybe one day I’ll get one. But until then, I’ll use the extra time she stays awake to bond, laugh, read and play. Thankfully, once she goes to sleep, she sleeps.

Tell us about your current role, project(s), or business(es) and what is your inspiration? 
I am the director of an accelerator for Black and Latinx entrepreneurs called Elevate/Elevar. We support entrepreneurs with access to capital, connections and investment-readiness curriculum. In addition, I am a Grow With Google Digital Coach who teaches Black and Latinx entrepreneurs digital skills training to grow their brands and businesses. I also have a public speaking and training business that coaches speakers with the goal of diversifying the speaking industry. My goal for all three roles is to connect people to the resources and people needed to achieve their dreams and use entrepreneurship as a vehicle for economic mobility and sustainability, and this inspires and motivates me daily.

As a boss mom, what do you want to instill in your little ones? 
I want Za to love all of herself from the skin she’s in to the way she grins, to think big, dream big and always believe she can, to treat others with kindness and respect and demand the same, to explore the world from planes to trains and feel the fear and do things anyway. I also want Za to know that she is in control of her happiness, her emotions, her destiny and who she wants to be and when she doesn’t feel in control to seek wellbeing and therapy.

What is an inspirational quote or mantra that you live by?
I birthed Zari in a shower versus in a bed with no meds and I even laughed and cracked a few jokes while doing it. My decision to laugh when things get rough, tough, bumpy, lumpy and lonely started the moment she was born and hasn’t stopped since. Happiness, laughter and joy is a choice and my daily goal is to find it, and it’s a mantra I try to stand by and live by daily. 

How has motherhood changed the way you move in the world?  
Motherhood has taught me how to laugh, cry, say yes, say no and say I don’t know more freely and more confidently. It has also taught me how to slow down, be still, and be more present when it counts and how to prioritize, manage my time, and choose me and my family more consistently. It really has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.

What has surprised you the most about your motherhood journey?
I’m surprised by how much joy and happiness the first year has been for me. When I announced my pregnancy, I was immediately inundated with the sad, bad and ugliness of motherhood. How hard it is, how real postpartum depression is, how your career takes a backseat and how you rarely sleep and barely eat. And although these things are very real and very present the first year, these past 11-months have been more tears of joy, more smiles that hurt my cheeks, and more laughs until my belly is aching than anything. I wish solicited and unsolicited advice from family and friends would have shared more of this side of motherhood.
Any advice you would give to new moms?
Your journey is your journey and no one should define motherhood for you but you. Be the mother you want to be, not the mother others think you should be.

How do you allow others to support you as a mother and creator?
I’ve learned that everything you do does not have to be done by you. So since having Za I have hired a cleaning company, I have hired more people on my team, and I have joined a gym that has child care which allows me to workout, go to the spa, and even work with Za in the same building. It has definitely been an increase to our monthly household budget but the decreased stress is oh so worth it.
Keep up with Keisha! Website | Instagram | LinkedIn
Photo Credits: Tracy Jane Weidel, Jamar Church Pinkston

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